Friday, October 19, 2012

Outfit of the Day 10.19.12

Another terrible work restroom shot.  Lighting sucks.  Thought about taking the pic while I was getting ready this morning, but you know how it is...life gets in the way sometimes.

Top:  Joy Joy from Janie Rose Boutique (LOVE THIS TOP!!)
Pants: Skinny's from American Eagle
Shoes: Steve Madden glittery gold from DSW (gotten TONS of compliments on these)
Watch: TKO from The Courtyard


Now, here is the main reason I didn't get a better pic of me.  I was up half the night creating a "50s outfit" for my daughter to wear to her themed school day.  If I had more notice, I really could have gotten creative, but I'd say this is pretty darn good.  And since I can't even draw a straight stick man, the poodle was out and she got stars.  I don't have a sewing machine so all this was hand stitched.  She loved it when she saw it this morning.  And just an FYI....she's wearing a red hair tie in her ponytail.  

Top: Crazy 8s
Leggings: Carter's
Shoes: Saucony from Marshall's
Poodle...err, star skirt: hand made by  momma

Thursday, October 18, 2012

Outfit of the day....

Okay - So I'm going to try to start doing an "Outfit of the Day".  This first picture is kinda terrible b/c it's taken in the restroom at work.  I forgot to take one before I left the house this morning....and I was running late anyways, so I didn't really have time.  And if I had thought about it, I would have taken my daughter's pic as well.  *sigh*...

White Top: Banana Republic (has a cropped sleeve)
Kahki Jacket: Ann Taylor Loft
Dark Blue Pants: Gap (old)
Coral Sandals: DSW
Watch: Fossil
Cross Ring: Charming Charlie

Friday, October 5, 2012

Product reviews....

Okay...so, I had originally decided to wait until sometime next week to do a post about some of my most favorite items, but I figured why wait.  This is my first product review, so please bear with me as I have quite a few that I want to post about...

1. Fake Bake Flawless:  This is a self-tanner.  I bought mine on Amazon.com for about $14.  Now, I have never used self-tanners in the past, mostly because I have always been leery of the streaks, the orange color that most turn your skin, and the blatantly obvious look of "yeah, I just put on a self-tanner and that's why I look like a freak".  I mean, who really wants to look like they rolled around in the Georgia clay/mud?  Not I!!  So, unless you're out riding four-wheelers through the Arkabutla bottoms (us North Mississippians know what that is) and getting muddy intentionally, give this a try.

There are a couple things to know before using.
1.  First and foremost...take a shower before using this product.  And be sure to shave all areas that you would normally shave.  And please, please exfoliate before using this after you shave.  You don't want all those dead skin cells that are left behind after shaving to have an affect on how this product takes to your skin. 
2.  When you get the product, it will come w/ 2 purple gloves, a mitt, a spray nozzle and the tanner itself.  Now, I read a lot of reviews where they loved the product but complained about it leaking.  Let me tell you right now how to solve that problem.  The "straw" on the spray nozzle is WAY too long.  So, before you replace the original cap on the bottle with the spray nozzle, I highly recommend taking a pair of scissors and cutting about one inch off the bottom of the "straw".  And trust me, that will NOT be too much.
3.  Please be sure to use the gloves that come w/ the product and you can use them over and over again.
4.  The mitt is the best part about the product.  You place it on your hand over the gloves.
5.  On the brown side of the mitt (the soft side), put about 2 or 3 sprays of the product on the mitt and begin to rub it into your skin.  I usually start out w/ my back.  I'm single so I have to do this part myself, but if you have a spouse or significant other, they can do it for you.  Be sure to bend your elbows, knees and fingers when applying the product to those parts.
6.  When applying it to the face, I usually just put one spray of the product on the mitt and then rub into my face.  Make sure to rub into the hairline so that you don't get that "I don't know how to apply make-up" look.  If after trying, you decide that you don't like the all over face application, then just start applying it to the areas where you would naturally be kissed by the sun such as the cheek bones, top of nose, forehead, etc.
7.  For my hands, I usually do those last.  I take my gloves off and just use the tanner that is left over on the mitt to do my hands with (don't spray any extra on the mitt).  Be sure to get in-between your fingers, too.

Now, my skin tone is naturally an olive color...meaning that I tan pretty easily.  So, it doesn't take much of this product to give me the color that I like.  This comes as a 6oz. bottle, so it should last you quite some time.  I highly recommend doing this as the very last thing of the day, right before you go to bed.  That way you are not messing w/ any water and you have overnight for it to set.  Most reviews I read on this said that they didn't have any issue with the product rubbing off onto their bed sheets while they slept.  I, on the other hand, did.  It wasn't a whole lot, but I did have some.  I think mostly it's because I like to sleep on my stomach so what did come off was on my pillow.  No biggie...nothing the washing machine can't take care of.  The next morning when you shower, it will look like it's all washing off...don't freak.  It will be fine.  Also, some reviewers said they did a 2nd application the next night.  For some folks, that may be something you want to do.  For me, because of my skin tone, I usually only apply it about every 3 or 4 days to keep my color.  And this stuff dries really fast, so don't spray it onto your body and then rub it because it may dry faster than you can get to it.  Be sure to spray it onto the mitt and then rub onto your skin.  And because it dries so fast, you don't have to stand around in your birthday suit waiting on it to dry.  Also, it doesn't have that "I just laid in a tanning bed, that's why I have that funky odor coming from me" smell.  It smells kinda tropical.  I think it smells kind of like coconuts...but that's just me.

Anyhoo...I hope you give it a try.  It's way better than going for a professional spray tan.  Besides the fact that you don't have to deal with someone looking at your body imperfections and criticizing you in their head.  I mean, who really wants to get down to your skivvies in front of someone you don't know.  This product also beats the tanning beds.  We all know those aren't good for you.  And I personally just don't have the patience to sit in some freaking hot bed for 15 or 20 minutes anymore.  I could be doing something much more productive with my time.... like applying this self-tanner.


2. Maybelline Instant Age Rewind Concealer:  I just recently discovered this and I must say that I LOVE it!!!  It's supposed to "erase" those dark circles, but I've only been using it for about a week now so I can only see a slight difference with it.  It has helped me look more awake, though, and I like that!  It is about $7 at like Wal-mart or Target, but so very worth it. Because of my skin tone, I use #130 Bluff Beige.

In my family, both the men and women have the dark circles.  So, no matter how much rest I get, I still look like I've been hit in the eyes with a baseball bat (not really that bad, but close) most days.  Again, I read product reviews on it before I bought it.  And it got TONS of great reviews.  It doesn't take much and I only apply it in sort of a triangle shape under my eyes down to the edge of my nose, tapping it onto my face.  Then I very lightly blend it in w/ the tip of my finger.  Be careful when doing that as it can rub away fairly easily causing you to apply more.

I like this product for a couple reasons.  1. It doesn't cake up and doesn't make you look like you've put this thick concealer on.  It's really light and you don't even know you have it on.  2. Once you set it w/ powder, you are good to go.  There is no need to apply more unless you are going to be meeting the girls up for a night of fun after work. 


3. Cover Girl Clean Foundation: This is another product that I just recently started using.  I had been using Almay, but they have gone up...WAY up on their prices as well as they must have discontinued what I was using because I can no longer find it.  So, instead of paying like $12 for a small bottle of Almay foundation, I started using this.  It's only like $5 in the store.  I use #535 Medium Light and it works for my skin.  It's supposed to help against acne breakouts which is also what the Almay product did.  But with this, it saves me $7.  It's really light and airy and I like that.  I don't like feeling like I have layers and layers of makeup on.  I use this to blend into the edge of the Maybelline eye concealer I use (mentioned above) and over the rest of my face.  Overall, it's a really great product and I highly recommend it.


4. L'Oreal True Match Super-Blendable Powder:  Another product that I just recently started using.  It's like $8 or $9 in the store.  I use W4 Natural Beige.  I normally use Physicians Formula, but they were out of the one I buy that day and I needed some, so I bought this (plus, I had a $2 off coupon, so I thought I'd try it).  And I really love this stuff!  It's very light and doesn't cake up over my concealer and foundation.  AND...it doesn't take very much of it to cover. So, I can see it lasting me a while. 



5. Neutrogena MoistureShine Lip Soother:  I have been using these for about a year now and it's probably one of my most used items!  I carry it with me everywhere - Literally!  I am not one to use lipstick...never have been.  I hate how cakey and thick lipsticks feel on my lips.  So, I have always used glosses or lip shines.  Plus, I like the more natural look to my lips.  It's about $6 in the store and I switch up between two different ones: #40 Gleam and # 45 Sparkle.  Both are great!! 



6. Amber Romance Ultra Moisturizing Hand Cream by Victoria's Secret:  I have to say that I absolutely LOVE this stuff!!!  I'm not a huge "lotion" person.  Never have been because I don't like the greasy feeling of lotion.  I use Aveeno on my legs after I shave and on dry spots during the cold months because I have to, but that's as far as I go w/ lotions.  But this Hand Cream is fabulous!!!  I use it all the time. I keep some on my desk at work and I have some at home!  I like using the cream because it's thick enough that it doesn't leave a slippery, greasy feeling on my hands, but yet it really moisturizes.  Victoria's Secret carries these in several different scents, but I love the Amber Romance the best.  It's not over-powering, but smells really good and I get lots of compliments on it!  I think they normally run about $12, but most of the time VS has specials of like 3 for $25.  That's when I normally buy them up.  Plus, I don't have to go back so often if I do that as the closest one to me is about 30 minutes away.   


7. St. Ives Fresh Skin Apricot Scrub:  A few months back (I think around February time frame), I did a post on my face cleaning routine which included Neutrogena Naturals face wash and the Olay Pro-X system.  I still use those as they work for me and I really like that the Pro-X removes the dirt and make-up that my normal face washing doesn't, but I also use this St. Ives Apricot scrub.  I mostly use it in the mornings while I shower.  I like that it is a scrub and it exfoliates my skin.  Plus it smells good!!  I'm pretty sure the one I have is for sensitive skin because my face is pretty sensitive to certain things.  It's about $3 or $4 at Wal-mart. And I really like it a lot!!   



8.  St. Ives Timeless Skin Collagen Elastin Moisturizer: Yet another recent discovery.  I have been needing a facial moisturizer for quite some time, but again, I don't like the greasy feel that most have.  I did some checking around and read a ton of great reviews on this.  So, I decided to start using it.  I like how it moisturizes my skin, but I don't put it on my nose. I think it just adds to the oil that the skin on my nose naturally produces and I definitely don't need any help with that.  But I apply it at night after I wash my face and in the mornings after my shower.  I apply it to my face and neck.  Again, I just recently started using it, so I can only see a very slight difference.  But I like it so I will continue to use it.  I think it's only like $3.50 in Wal-mart.  I think it's like 10oz and it will last you FOREVER because it doesn't take much!  But I did read a couple reviews where they used it on their stomach/thighs/legs after having a baby and it seemed to help.  But that's your call.  I just use it on my face and neck.   


9. Arm & Hammer Sensitive Toothpaste: For quite a number of years now, I have struggled with pretty sensitive teeth.  I don't like really cold things on my teeth.  That's why I don't drink anything with ice in it unless I have a straw nor do I hardly ever eat ice cream.  Some time ago, after my hygienist recommended it, I started using the Sensodyne toothpaste. It was expensive (like $5 a tub), but it was the only sensitive toothpaste out and it worked, so I continued to use it.  Recently, Arm & Hammer came out with a sensitive version.  I decided to give it a try mostly because it was half the cost of the Sensodyne.  I can tell you that with the first tube, I couldn't wait to get through it.  I didn't like it and I think it was mostly because of the flavor.  The next time, I tried a different flavor.  I've been using it for a few months now and I really like it.  It works just as well as the expensive stuff, but at a way better price.  I'm not home right now, so I can't remember what flavor I use, but you can just try them and see which works for you.

Okay folks - there ya go.  I know it was quite a bit to take in, but I just wanted to give my thoughts on the products I use.  Let me know what you use that you love or hate!  I can't wait to see your comments.

Tootles!! 

Wednesday, September 26, 2012

Wait....so I pissed you off?

Let me set the record straight.  In my lifetime, I have pissed off my fair share of folks.  Do I feel bad about it?  In some cases, yes.  But in most cases, that would be a big fat NO!  Why don't I feel bad about it?  Well, funny you should ask.  I will gladly explain...

I learned a long time ago that I can't and won't live my life based on what other people think of me.  If I did, I might not ever come out of my house.

If you know me, then you know that I hold back on a lot of things, but when pushed to it, I will say what I feel and believe in.  If it pisses you off, then I make no apology for it.  I'm not going to talk bad about somebody...that's not who I am. I'm going to tell you like it is.  If I do something you don't like, then again...I make no apology for it.  I most likely did it for a reason.

And you can stay pissed at me if you like.  You can even judge me if you like.  But just know that by you doing that....it means I affected your life, you didn't affect mine.














Y'all be good now...ya hear!!




Tuesday, September 11, 2012

Time to refocus.....

If you know me, then you know that for the past 3 years, I have been battling a few things in my life.  Anything from personal relationships, to family relationships, to hurtful words, to the ex-husband, to being talked about, even to my own inner conflicts. 

Last night as I sat outside in the cool evening air, I did a LOT of thinking.  A lot of reflecting on what the heck is going on with me.  All these memories (good and bad) rolled across my brain.  Some brought me to tears and some made me smile and laugh. 

Some of those memories, I look back on and wonder why am I being blamed for it because they were completely out of my control?  Other memories make me wonder what the hell I was thinking. 

And because of that, I stayed away from a lot of people.  I withdrew and kept to myself.  

But what I decided after all this soul searching I did, and of course, speaking with a few friends, was this.....I am NOT my past.  I will no longer carry the hurt and burden of the past on my shoulders. 

My TRUE friends will always be there to cry with me and to laugh with me....no matter what!!  As quoted by one of my friends, "I say "F" all them!!!" (girl....you know who you are).  And honestly, that's just what I needed to hear!  So, I say Thank You to my dear friend for waking me out of this fog I've been in for the last 3 years. 

With this, the time has come for me to refocus myself.  I have a beautiful and kind-hearted little girl that I need to rededicate myself to (not that I wasn't already).  But she deserves to have a mom that is 100% focused!

Much love to all my friends that continue to stand by me!!  You have no idea just how much it means to me!!

Sunday, September 2, 2012

How does she do it?

Ok, so I've been asked on several hundred occasions in my life, "how do you stay so skinny?".  Normally my answer is just a laugh and a smile.  But I think it's about time to blog about it.

During my almost 36 years on this earth, I can honestly say that I've never really had any issues w/ my weight with the exception of my pregnancy/post pregnancy.  I gained about 35 to 40 pounds and it took almost a year after giving birth to lose the pregnancy weight.  I mean, I could have lost the weight quicker if I had really tried, but I was a new mom and my daughter was my biggest concern...still is.

Anyhoo, for me...I guess my "skinniness" is in the genes.  I believe I took after my grandfather and my biological father.  My grandfather was 6'4" and skinny as a rail.  My biological father was probably about 6' and just as skinny.  But at this point in my life, I don't consider myself "skinny".  Yes, you read that correctly.  I'm 5'6-1/2", weigh 122 pounds and I don't consider myself skinny.  Wait!!!!  Before you start cursing at the screen, let me explain myself.

I consider myself "healthy".  I've passed that age where I can eat whatever I want and not gain anything.  I passed that point about the time I hit the age of 30.  I learned that by what I was eating and what I wasn't able to just shed.  Point is....at 30, I just wasn't as active as I once was.  Don't get me wrong...I had a 2 month old baby at that time, so I was active, but not like I was before she came along.  I pretty much stayed that way for a couple years.  I was skinny as I've been called, but I wasn't healthy.  

After my divorce, I decided I needed something to do with my time when my child was with her father.  So, I took up something that once was so foreign to me....RUNNING.  In fact, I'm training for my 2nd marathon (that's 26.2 miles).  For me, running was a stress reliever!  And at that time...that's exactly what I needed.  When I run, it's like I just focus on my steps and my breathing, listen to my music and forget the world exists....for just a little while anyways.

When I started running, I also committed myself to another change in my life...eating healthy!  Not only for myself, but also for my daughter.  I wanted her to be able to try different foods and to grow to love them.  Of course, it wasn't easy.  Who doesn't go by the bakery section in the grocery store and NOT buy those freshly baked cookies or loaves of bread baked that day, or the delicious smelling pies?  It's a complete trap!!  Why else would they put the bakery in the very front of the stupid store??  Because they know that people very rarely walk thru that section w/out buying anything.  I mean, really!!  Who would rather have a plain, tasteless bag of carrots over something oh so freaking sweet and much more appetizing to the tastebuds??

I learned pretty quickly to just ignore that area of the store...ya know, pretend it's not even there!  Now, I've heard people say many a time that eating healthy doesn't taste good.  Well, if it did taste good, there would be no need for McDonald's, Krispy Kreme, junk food, cokes, etc.  Actually, eating healthy can taste good.  You just have to know how to make it work in your favor!  I've learned how thru trial and error.  So, I'm going to kind of go thru my do's and don't's that work for me.

- Drink LOTS of water
- Eat LOTS of FRESH fruits and veggies, or frozen.  Stay away from the canned veggies...they have too much sodium and weird preservatives in them.
- Eat "lean" meats.  I cut red meat out of my everyday diet a couple years ago (not saying I haven't tried any every once in a while), but I mostly eat fish, shrimp, turkey, chicken.
- Limit your consumption of "toddies" - trust me, I know how hard that is...especially after a rough week at work.  But beer is made from yeast - same thing bread is made from - and what does bread do to ya??
- Limit your bread / pasta intake.  When you do eat it, eat WHOLE grain - not multigrain.  Whole grain is better for you.
- Stay away from white bread / pasta.  Unbelievable, but they are full of sugar.
- Stay away from the caffeine as much as you possibly can.
- Wing yourself off the Vitamin D milk and go for the Fat Free.  You really don't need the Vitamin D unless you have a toddler in the house.  By now, your brain and bones should be developed enough that you don't need the milk that's full of fat.
- Limit how much you eat out.  That goes for all your meals.  Take your lunch to work - that way you know what is in your food because you prepared it.
- Don't be afraid to try different things.  Look for recipes online and change them up to fit you and your family.  I do that all the time.  I usually never follow the original recipe.
- Leave your money and debit/credit card at home.  That way you're not tempted to make a sudden, guilty purchase while at work.

With all this....I also work out a LOT!!  I'm in the gym anywhere from 4 to 6 days a week (depending on my kiddo's schedule).  My gym routine varies.  I know I should probably write down what I do at the gym, but I find that I work out better when I'm not focused on trying to keep up with each step I make at the gym.  I've seen others at the gym writing their routines down, but it just doesn't work for me.  I do, however, keep up with it on a website called www.dailymile.com.  I'm able to log my runs, cycling, fitness routines, etc on there and share w/ others that are on that site as well.  It's actually kind of a motivation for me.

Some days at the gym, I go in and just focus on running.  Other days, I break it down and include a fitness/core workout as well.  On weekends (when my daughter is at her dad's house), I usually hit the gym for about 2 hours a day and about an hour and a half during the week.  Some may say that's a little much, but it works for me.  No, I'm not the spring chicken I used to be, but I want to live a long, happy and healthy life.

Now, I'm not a fan of the word "diet".  When people ask what I do, I try to steer them away from a "diet".  Why? Because I've not known one single person that said they were going on a diet and actually stuck to it.  The word "diet" should be removed from the human language in my opinion.  Don't depend on those diet or quick fix pills.  When you finish taking those pills, what are you going to do then?  In my own personal opinion, the pills are like a dependency.  You don't need to depend on a pill to make you lose weight.  Make a change!!  Even if it's a slow change, just make one.  For instance, make a commitment each week to remove 1 or 2 "bad" things from your current eating habits and replace them w/ good things.  Replace that ice cream w/ sugar free ice cream.  Replace regular fatty bacon w/ healthy turkey bacon.  Limit yourself to one meal out a month...makes it much more of a treat then...but still chose healthy items.  So on and so on!

Most of all...find your will power!!  And stick to it.  People lose weight everyday the healthy way.  So can you.

Now, I'm by no means perfect...I do have my failures.  But I try to limit those to as few food failures as possible....because I like a good cold toddy every now and then just as much as the next person.

Just keep it strong!  You can do this!!  I have faith in ya!!



Monday, August 6, 2012

total misperception

I never imagined at 35 years old that my life would be where it is today.  I'm single and a single mom.  Don't get me wrong...I'm definitely not complaining about that!!!  I just also never imaged after almost 3 years later, the amount of noses that get stuck up in the air at me.  That is one of the bad parts about living in a ho-dunk small town!! 

Unfortunately, it's human nature to be quick to judge others.  Only problem....most of those doing the judging, if not all, don't know what they are being judgmental about.  They hear only one side of a story or hear rumors and think they've got the right to turn a cold shoulder!  I mean...even the bible says not to judge:

And his delight shall be in the fear of the Lord.  He shall not judge by what his eyes see, or decide disputes by what his ears hear...  Isaiah 11:3

There is only one lawgiver and judge, He who is able to save and to destroy.  But who are you to judge your neighbors?  James 4:12

Yet even with a ton of bible verses about not judging, people are still so quick to do it.  They hear something and think they've got you pegged!  They think they know exactly what kind of person you are.  They think they know all about you.  But do they really know what "went on behind closed doors"?  NO!! 

From the outside, to neighbors, friends,  and even family, it can look like everything is perfect.  Open up that front door, invite yourself in and open the first closet you come to!  My bet... (and I know this from personal experience) is that there will be a ton of skeletons fall out of that closet.  Skeletons that you know nothing about.  Skeletons that you have never seen before.  Skeletons that would totally shock you...why?  Because the perception made to you is that all is perfect.  That's how society is.  Make it look perfect and therefore, everyone will believe it! 

For those doing the judging, I invite you to walk a month, week, day in the shoes of those you are judging.  You have no clue what they have been through or are going through.  You have no clue what God has asked them to take on.  You also have no right to judge!  Maybe you judge because you think you are superior.  And then again, maybe you judge in hopes that no one will find out about your skeletons...